Part 1 of a post that probably has nothing to do with post 2,but does have to do with the Service post

My last post got me thinking about a conversation I had with some ladies at the circle. We were discussing some things we wanted to learn and some things we have learned. One sister wanted to learn how to flog with both hands. It may sound real simple, but there is a bit of art to it. so, we started talking about the different ways it can be done. And trying to brain storm when something like this can be taught. In the middle of the conversation someone said, “yeah I was canning this guy and he kept saying your so good at this.” She said she was a bit insulted, and we all could agree.

 

Why?

 

Here’s the thing.

 

It can be looked at this way. A woman is in labor, the doctor instructs her to push, the baby is delivered then, what is called the afterbirth is extracted. That’s it, there’s no manual that comes out, no cliff notes. Just the baby, you’re on your own. You may drag your ass to Barnes and Noble to get a book written by some guy named Dr. Spock, but your best bet if you’re lucky is get with some women who have experience.

 

Back to main point.

 

Learning different skills take time, energy and willingness. You also have to find someone who has the time, energy and willingness to teach you.

This is where my last post comes to into play. It takes a lot of work and sometimes money.

 

Let’s do aVH1 behind the music with the group TLC, the episode when left eye breaks their money down and how at the end they had to file for bankruptcy.

 

First I have to put in the work to find someone I want to learn [add skill here]. That takes time.

 

So I find someone.

 

Then negotiations begins:

 

Am I going to have to pay to learn?

Where will the [add skill here] be taught? They call the shots with this.

I may have to put in some travel time. I can assure any one who wants to learn a skill I’ve never learned anything in a dark ass dungeon.

Which begs the question, will our schedules allow for the training. Again, they call they shots.

 

Some other things to think about.

 

If I have someone not a problem, but if I don’t, do they know someone?

–if I don’t have anyone this cause a problem. If they have someone, are they willing to let me practice on their property?—

–if they don’t have anyone, are they willing to find a person that’s willing? Or do I have to find someone?—

 If they know of someone, great.

Which opens up more negotiations. And of course adds to the scheduling.

 

After all of this, the training begins. The one training (the Master) decides when I’m good enough to leave the nest. Depending on frequency of the training, it could be anywhere form a month to six months again the Master calls the shot. And sometimes the person you’re practicing on.

 

Now with all that said and done. There comes a time were you might come across me and we hit it off. You like being flogged, I like flogging. We plan a day to get together and you show up. You show up on time and well groomed. Thanks, but you also show up empty handed. Why? Because you expect that I would have floggers.

And I do, along with spending time and energy learning how to flog. I also spent money buying that which I like. Floggers go for $100.00 to $150.00 all the way to $200.00 depending on what you like and who you purchase from.

 

So the next time you’re talking with someone about what you like, and they say I love doing that too. Remember they have invested in themselves, time energy and money. and you happen to be getting some of the benefits of their investment.

 

So on your part be engaging, flirt, moan groan have a hard on anything, to let the person know you’re enjoying yourself and help them enjoy it as well. After all you just lying there after showing up empty handed.

 

 

 

 

So, yeah we’re good.

 Until next time Perverts-Make it work-

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

      

To Be or Not To Be

I have been thinking about this for a bit now. I can never understand why I sometimes read how some Doms advertise to want to mentor subs, or subs looking for a Dom to mentor them? I could understand it from a counseling stand point, which is a part of mentoring. But they enviably go on to write what they want to be mentored in,  or how they will mentor the sub. For me there lies the problem. I don’t understand why a sub would ask a Dom to mentor them? And here’s what’s even more confusion. They want to be mentored so that when they finally meet their ideal Dom, they will be well trained. Huh?

 

I think in this instance someone who is your peer would make the best mentor, unless ofcourse you plan on moving from one station, submissive to another, Dom. And even then I believe you should start with a mentor where you are at.

 

It must be me, but if I’m going to put that much time and energy into training someone it’s going to be for my benefit. Since how could anyone know what some future Dom may want from their sub? How could some other Dom know how the hell I want my coffee in the morning, or if I want you to walk on the left or the right of me, etc.

 

If someone wants to experience what a single tail feels like, or a cane, flogger I could understand them wanting to learn/ experience those thing by someone. And even then, not everyone does these, thing exactly the same. The best way to gain experience it to put your self out there, granted, a sub has a harder time I believe in doing this. After all they are the ones that are having things done to them. And I can understand the need for a protector of sorts. (not that they are totally safe from protectors either in some cases). And maybe that’s really what they (the subs) are looking for.  And like most things with people, are calling it something they don’t really mean.

 

On the other hand I think that some Doms who want to mentor subs are really using this as a means to get sex.

 

But what do I know

 

Until next time Perverts