So much to say, so little time to write

I’m going to write about the caning and knife play demo, as well as the wonderful weekend with the pearls. But I’m still resting from all the goings on.

It has been a great birthday day weekend.

 

And I’m thinking of moving my litle space here: DarkEros

About A Profile

I am a Sadist by nature, A Top during casual play and a Master all the time. Some may believe that a Sadist like myself hates men. This is not true; some of my good friends are Sadist and are in loving, caring relationships. I enjoy activities, which are like a dance. One, which involves Pain, Passion and Pleasure. I have a very strong will and a strange sense of humor. I grew up watching the women in my family rule. Doing a dance of their own, that many witnessed but very few knew how. These were my first lessons in Female Dominance. It takes a special kind of individual to be with me, one should be a true to them selves. Whether a novice, masochist or submissive. Novice should be willing to be honest about where they are at and where they are willing to go. Submissive should come willing to submit. I am a Lady and have no desire to wrestle your submission from you. I do not wrestle, well maybe a little. To be apart of my world I require one to be healthy physically, mentally and spiritually, to a large degree. This means if you are trying to work through some erotic slavery issues and want to grovel at a Black Woman’s feet and be called names, you will be disappointed. I have had the opportunity to learn some things from some great people. I’ve also had the opportunity to teach some of my skill. I have been told that my face always looks like I am up to mischief. I also like reading, movies and art or just a nice night of hanging out. I’m hoping to meet people who have a sense of humor and are like minded.

 

I have updated my about page, which is the same as the one of fetlife. But for the life of me I can’t understand why any one would want to contact me without reading something about me. Granted a few paragraphs about me does not tell anyone all there is but it does touch on some things that I feel are important enough for someone to know.

So imagine my surprise when contacted from someone who is into humiliation and race play. Did they not see/ read my about/profile?

I write about a lot of things I’m interested in on here, so I guess it’s time I jot down what I’m not into. In time I might change. But if I haven’t by now…well.

I have no desire to:

 See a man in my underwear, or women’s underwear he’s bought for himself or a dress. Sissies are nice from a far. I know a few that show great skill at parties.

I have a view on liquid bonding but I draw the line at scat.

Any kind of age play is out. And as I wrote nothing to do with slavery in the sense of some erotic plantation play.

I love looking at pony play, but it doesn’t interest me to own any kind of animal.

So there it is, not long although I’m sure there are some others I can’t think of them right now.

Until next time Perverts, remember your kink may not be mine but I’m not knocking it.

Friday Night

Lady Sabrina and I got to talk last night about what we wanted in a slave/submissive or bottom. We came up with the same things, which lead me to believe 1. I’m not crazy for wanting what I want and 2. I’m not the only one that bullshit happens to. Not that I thought I was. But due to family matters I had been out of the public scene as it were for some years. But most of what was here when I stepped away is still here. Okay I am a bit idealistic and thought most things would have changed. But alas I find only the season did.  This is some of the conversation we had. I didn’t bother to edit it or put who said what since we are on the same page most of the time.And not to worry we did also talk about what goes on, on the other side of the whip. Which I’ll get to in another post. 

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It comes down to this, know thy self. Guys usually say they are submissive and they really aren’t. The same hold true for defining themselves as slaves. But they have no clue what these words mean.Be honest. If you want someone to beat you then fuck you say that.Get it real in your head. If your looking for the fantasy, stop being cheap and go to a Prodom. That’s why they have a market in the community.Or if you want to be fucked after being whipped, again stop being cheap and go to a prostitute who will whip you then fuck you. There is a market for that as well. If you want to serve and say you do, know what service is to you, then go to place were there are dominant women and listen, really listen to what service is to them. Ask them what service is. The definition might be the same.If your idea of service is eating pussy that might be service for some women, but not all and honestly it’s really just serving you. 

If you are lazy, you might want to think about were your place is in D/s or BD/SM for that matter.It’s hard work being a Top, likewise its hard work being a bottom. You might get luck and find a lazy top to your lazy bottom. But chances are if you come across someone who is serious about living an M/s, D/s life be prepared to work. Most times it’s not fun and games. Be willing to submit, I’ve never in all my years heard that a bottom had to wrestle a Top’s dominance out of them. But hear all the time that one wants to be made to submit. Either you want to submit or you don’t bottom line.

Learn to follow instruction, if you have a problem doing this you might not want to be in a D/s situation. Don’t assume anything. If you’re interested in someone get to know them, don’t assume that they are going to know that you’re interested in them. No one is a mind reader. Say you are. People are afraid of rejection. It happens on both sides of the whip. But if you’re willing to take a chance with finding someone to do all those “kinky” things to you, you have to step out there. You might fail but then again you might just hit the jackpot.  

The difference between a male Dom, female sub and a female Dom and a male sub is this: female subs pursue males Doms the way women pursue men, in the world. They may dress the part, they are flirty, and there’s a lot of eye batting. Where male subs may think there’s a difference in pursuing a female Dom. There isn’t it’s done the same way whether you’re at TES at paddles or on the street. It’s done the same way. You start with a conversation, some flirting and then maybe some eye batting. 

Get your flirt on Perverts  

Two Dates and A Movie

An update from my Saturday date, I had the pleasure of going to a movie Jumpers. I once was dragged to see the movie phone booth a couple of years ago, with the same person and this movie was just as bad. Phone booth is still the worst movie, but this is right up there. And I may have to rethink my friendship. I think it could have been really good, but then like other bad movies I’ve seen, I wish it was a book. This way it might have the phrase behind it, the book was better then the movie. I would rather spend a couple of days reading a good book, then sitting in a dark room with strangers, who by the way eat popcorn with their mouths open. While I sit there losing an hour to two hours of my life watching a bad movie.  Other then the bad movie the rest of the day went well, I had a really nice lunch and the conversation was great (still rethinking the friendship though). I got all the way uptown put my key in the door and the phone rings. It was someone I have been trying to hook up with for some time. So I took off my tims put on some pumps and went back into Manhattan. We met at brother jimmies. And since we had been trying to hook up it was good to finally meet the guy. Okay here’s the thing. The prophet Chris Rock said that when a man meets a woman he’s meeting her representative. This is so true. I can say that I know a few things about myself, things that come with work and honesty. 1) I don’t take myself too serious even though I can be serious.And2) What you see is what you get. The only time my rep comes out is during job interviews.  So we had a wonderful conversation about kink and a few places he’s been over a few drinks and some finger food. Yep finger food. I hate those women who go out and just have salad when on a date. They know their hungry, eat something! I’m not saying that after a meal I unbutton my pants belch and scratch, but I am myself. I tend to be up front about myself. Something my mentor told me when I was in my twenties. Work on you, and then be yourself, which has served me well. The even went well and I made it back uptown with only one phone call saying fun was had by all.    It would be nice if we could get together again.Until next time pervertsHave some fries with your buger