Service, Like For Real Service

 

 

 

Domestic workers take care of the household and its dependent members. They perform domestic chores such as washing, ironing, buying foods and drinks, accompanying the head of the household or grocery shopping, cooking, and cleaning the house. They may also run errands and walk the family dog. For many domestic workers, a large part of their job is taking care of the children. If there are elderly or disabled people in the household, domestic workers may care for them as well.

Every year for the months of June, July and August I wish just once all those email I get asking to serve me would be for real service. Service is not me doing for you. By that I mean tying you up and hitting you with something. It also doesn’t mean I want your mouth on some part of my body either. That’s not what service is in some cases.

So while I was dragging my ass to the supermarket to shop, then lugging the shopping cart up to my second floor apartment. I was stuck by the thought yet again. If I get one more email begging to serve me they better have a clear idea about what serve is. I’m of the mind to request a detailed essay on what serve means. Living D/s is not all about latex, leather and the whip. It is in large part about the everyday things that gets you to the latex, leather and the whip.

Some of what is written above about a domestic worker may not apply to what I need, I don’t have a dog or children and the only elderly person in the house would be me( I am over 25) but hell I googled service and came across what’s up there. I read about the different kinds of service and the funny thing is no were, is it written that the one in service gets serviced.

Granted it was not the D/s dictionary, but the gist is the same. This is the kind of service I require, eveything else can be negotiated.

I can honestly say that I can respect the emails that I get that say “you like to hit, I like to be hit how about it?” It’s to the point and if for nothing else it’s honest.

Service with a smile is cool, be good service is better.

Until next time Perverts

It’s GroundHog’s Day

On unspeakable Axes’ blog http://unspeakableaxe.com/?p=91 he wrote how he was asked what his skills were as a submissive and how he was trained. To which he was stumped I find that a lot of guys are stumped by this question, and submissive women are better at answering it.

Let me first say that sometimes one trains themselves. And if they have not had the opportunity to come across someone who is into certain things they have not been trained at all. And there’s nothing wrong with that. I think submissive men are better at answering to what they like or are into in regards to BD/SM or D/s. being into canning which for some is erotic and very centering is great, but it’s not a skill. Sure you learn to enjoy it on different levels but it’s still not a skill. Being able to give a good caning is a skill.

I would gather a guess that submissive women can answer this question better because of the way they are socialized. As girls they learn to do things, boys if they are lucky to have a mom that believe they should learn to take care of themselves learn things as well. But as life goes on they may find that the women in their lives basically do these things. And they do it in the between times not thinking that it’s a skill their mother taught them. Like cooking, laundry, cleaning the house. Women are taught to make a home, and the people in their home comfortable. This, if some submissive men think about, may have the same skills.

I think they get caught up in the whole SM thing to really think about what they may have to offer.

Not that I’m trying to thinking for the guy, but if you’re a pretty good cook say that. Everyone has to eat, even Dominant Women. There are things that one learns in life that is a skill and most don’t think of them. If in your every day life you work well with computers add that to your list, you know how to strip and shellac wood floors add it. What I’ve always found interesting and have come across is that not many submissive men take the time to better themselves, scratch that enhance themselves.

While I find that tops, jump through hoops to. Speaking for myself I know on the S/M front what I enjoy, so I’ve taken the necessary steps to assure anyone that I might be with of these things. (I never get asked about the things behind my skills.) It’s assumed I know what I’m doing, which for some people is not the case. So, I’ve made it a point to learn CPR, I’ve taken a course in first aid.

They should look to nature it’s the males in nature that have the red ass, or colorful feathers to attract.Or,  They should treat themselves like a business; work on their product then put themselves in a position where people may want what they have. And let the hostile take over begin.

There is another option, in the event they think they have no skills, just to say they are willing to learn. There are women who are into molding one from the ground up. Although I don’t know anyone who has a 9 to 5 and a life who is willing to do all that work, but you never know. 

As to other skills (or trappings of the lifestyle) that Dommes/Doms may want to know you have,which may not be all that important to you. But if, the both of you are that interested in each other, you maybe willing to learn.

And willingness to me is a good thing.   

Because it’s Groundhogs day, here’s a gift. 

http://www.cookshow.com/  http://ifoods.tv/site/ 

Until next time, it’s Groundhogs day!

Perverts