I have been thinking about this for a bit now. I can never understand why I sometimes read how some Doms advertise to want to mentor subs, or subs looking for a Dom to mentor them? I could understand it from a counseling stand point, which is a part of mentoring. But they enviably go on to write what they want to be mentored in, or how they will mentor the sub. For me there lies the problem. I don’t understand why a sub would ask a Dom to mentor them? And here’s what’s even more confusion. They want to be mentored so that when they finally meet their ideal Dom, they will be well trained. Huh?
I think in this instance someone who is your peer would make the best mentor, unless ofcourse you plan on moving from one station, submissive to another, Dom. And even then I believe you should start with a mentor where you are at.
It must be me, but if I’m going to put that much time and energy into training someone it’s going to be for my benefit. Since how could anyone know what some future Dom may want from their sub? How could some other Dom know how the hell I want my coffee in the morning, or if I want you to walk on the left or the right of me, etc.
If someone wants to experience what a single tail feels like, or a cane, flogger I could understand them wanting to learn/ experience those thing by someone. And even then, not everyone does these, thing exactly the same. The best way to gain experience it to put your self out there, granted, a sub has a harder time I believe in doing this. After all they are the ones that are having things done to them. And I can understand the need for a protector of sorts. (not that they are totally safe from protectors either in some cases). And maybe that’s really what they (the subs) are looking for. And like most things with people, are calling it something they don’t really mean.
On the other hand I think that some Doms who want to mentor subs are really using this as a means to get sex.
But what do I know
Until next time Perverts
