A friend of mine asked “since it’s so damn hard to find a submissive man, who’s into what you are is it worth the time and trouble?:
This got me to thinking if it was. At one time I was very active in BDSM. I was and I guess to a degree still a member of TES, I did a few demos there and was involved with the Dominant Women’s submissive men’s group. I would receive emails from gentlemen who said they wanted to serve, who said they were submissive, but couldn’t make it past a few emails. They would go on and on about wanting to submit to a strong woman, but what they really wanted was something for a while, not for real.
I would always suggest they see a pro-domme. Pro dommes serve a purpose I believe to fulfill theses men’s desire without wasting the time of women who are living the life. (Not to say that some Pros don’t, I know plenty that do). This in the long run would benefit a lot of people. But with most things I believe it comes down to money, they maybe to cheap and or deluded to go this route. It’s a lot of work being in a D/s relationship. It takes a willingness some believe they have, but don’t. It’s all good via email or IM but when it comes down to showing what they’re made of, they are too lazy to really work at surrendering themselves. I sometime think most men don’t have a clue about weather they are a submissive, fetishist, bottom or any number of other labels. For these men in all honesty it comes down to them being served instead of the Domme being served. It also comes down to what the lady is into. Or what you’re into. Me, I love wearing latex, boots and because I’m a hands on kinda gal. I love all kinds of impact play, as well as bondage to name a few.
So is it worth all the trouble? Well yeah, the look in boy’s eyes when he’s tied down and being threaten with bodily harm. The little sounds he makes while being single tailed. The deepness/throatiness of his voice afterwards when saying please, yes, or thank you. Then having your way with him until you’re exhausted in oh such a good way?
Yeah it’s worth it, but in the mean time..
Fuck
It’s good being a pervert
It always surprises me when I hear of dominant women finding it difficult to meet submissive men considering the ratio of Dommes/subs. Then I remember that there’s a universal problem that both sides need to deal with. Lack of quality.
Fingers and toes crossed for you.
Comment by axe — February 16, 2008 @ 9:19 pm
Thanks, it is difficult as I’m sure you may know from your own side. But because of the ratio, doesn’t mean that we (women) don’t get our share of, bait and switch. Which I’m not interested in.
But as I’ve writeten it’s worth it.
I’ll have a boy tied up, whipped up and fucked if it kills me. HAHAHAH
Hope your backs getting better. I’ll keep mine crossed for you as well.
warm regards
Comment by Lady Raven — February 19, 2008 @ 2:23 am
Lady Raven:
To second axe’s thought — hard to imagine a dominant woman having any difficulty at all finding a suitable male.
Agreed it may take some sorting through the chaff first, but it seems that that’s just a numbers game for you.
Pity the sincere male who has to hope you don’t give up and lose patience before you get to inspect him…
jon
Comment by jon — March 23, 2008 @ 3:55 am